Jaymes here dedicate to all who is serious about searching true meaning of LOVE and RELATIONSHIP to learn together from one of my most valuable response.Kindly reply any comments that you feel strongly about LOVE and RELATIONSHIP.His insight of LOVE and RELATIONSHIP really gave me a new path of searching further.Sense of freedom in his writing that i really felt it from my heart and i started to use more of my right brain to create more and digest the learning of FEAR and CONTROL.I am so glad that i have him as a true teacher in LOVE.This is subject that probably research till i died.The subject that i always feel strongly about.The subject that the whole world desperately in need of it.I want to increase my much needed knowledge about this subject and share this to those who wants to know the true meaning of this subject.The LOVE,this unique contribution is always my vision and mission in my mind's map.I hope i will continue to receive more comments and co-writing in the future to fulfill my E-Book dreams.
HI JAYMES I HAD TO SHARE YOUR THESIS WITH A FRIEND AS I FEEL THAT YOU NEED ENLIGHTENMENT WHERE LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE CONCERNED...THIS IS FROM A DEAR FRIEND OF MINE WHO BRINGS MUCH JOY AND LAUGHTER TO MY LIFE, AND SO MUCH CAN BE LEARNT FROM WHAT HE HAS TO SO AS HE SENDS IT WITH MUCH LOVE...XOX RUTH
Jaymes thankyou for making available your heartfelt sharing on what you have learnt. You have done a wonderful job at bringing sound advice and some important techniques into your views about relationships ... I applaud your courage for sharing as I know myself from experience how hard it can be to open yourself up to the opinions of others ... for what they are worth here are mine ... they are sent with love, understanding and respect.
First up ... what you have written is some mature thoughts on relationships ... how to manage them ... how to assist in there growth ... and some good mindsets to have in place in working through obstacles. However Jaymes ... that has in my view nothing to do with the subject matter you attached them too ... love.
A relationship is a vehicle two people share and invest in to allow themselves the opportunity to express who they are, share their gifts, their hopes,dreams and goals, their commitment to each other. For want of a better word ... it is a tool. Your sharing was very analytical and looking at the mechanics of what is required for a relationship to be successful ... is probably right on the money. The second most important aspect (the first I shall discuss in a moment) is communication ... and yes it is crucial ... to communicate properly the most important sense we can use is our ears ... like you quite rightly said ... people generally talk when in reality what is needed is for them to listen ... but people by nature complicate relationships in many more ways than that.
The biggest problem in ourselves and as a result our relationships is one small little word ... ego. Ego is the controlling aspect within us ... a defense mechanism that is usually seen as proactive in nature as it only responds ... stimulus is applied and off it goes ... its the most damaging human aspect and pervades our psychic, our relationships and eventually our society. The only way a relationship is ever successful is when both parties learn to put aside this little demon. You can have all the strategies in the world and they will all fail at the hands of this aspect of us.
You spoke of actions creating habits which in turn create our character ... habits are a learned response nothing more ... I put it to you that you can simplify your equation and focus purely by looking at what drives actions and habits ... ego. When looking at it you'll discover that ego is a fear based emotion ... sadly that is what our world is based on. Ego thinks in terms of I ... the self in all its connotations ... a relationship by definition is almost the death of personal ego because we enter a collective where the I is replaced with us ... or if your want to be truly enlightened ... should be replaced with ... U.
As much as your sharing tried to convey mature concepts and strategies which it did ... it also conveyed unfortunately ... ego in its purist form. By analysing to the extent that you are what you are in fact striving to do is control ... you might prefer the term manage ... but look deeper and you'll soon come to the realization its about control ... control of self, guidelines, strategies, theories etc etc ... that is logical left brained analytical thinking at its most defined ... well Jaymes my friend ... that very well might be handy at managing what appears to be the project you look at as being a relationship ... but that ain't got nothing ... I say nothing ... to do with love.
You want to easily know what love is ? ... do not ask a man, most have it dead wrong ... ask a woman Jaymes.
Love is EMOTION ... one little aspect that was completely absent in your pure left brained thesis I might add ... hugs.
Love is joy
Love is giving
Love is happiness
Love is inspiration
Love is light
Love is exhilaration
Love is passion
Love is service
Love is freedom
Love is creation
Love is butterflies flapping around in your stomach ... that feeling of vulnerability while at the same time an endearing arm of security ... love is a completeness within you that overcomes all fear, all ego, all needs, all wants ... love is our most gran dist self behind all the selfish masks and tricks we use to hide and protect ourselves ... love is all their really is.
There are in fact only two emotions in this world ... well actually the universe ... love and fear. Every other emotion is born from one of these aspects ... the positive and the negative ... the ying and the yang ... the black and the white ... the light and the dark.
Now when it comes to loving someone here's one crucial little piece of information that I believe you know but possibly don't wish to look at too much because its too close to home for all of us and a major basis on why our world and our relationships are so destructive by nature ... NO ONE CAN LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU DO YOURSELF.
Meditate and analyse just that for a week and you will not only understand relationships completely ... you may finally start of the road to finding a healthy one. The fact is people don't get into relationships for the right reasons ... they enter them ... they even fall in love ... to have someone love them more than they do themselves ... mostly by and large people hate themselves ... that is a recipe for disaster and does not work. Yes theres a heap more too it ... but its also just that simple.
Loving someone else is easy ... or at least thinking you love someone else is easy ... loving yourself is not so because we are our own worst critic ... our own worst enemy. However how can anyone be successful in building a relationship unless each person loves themselves completely first ? ... you asked similar questions in your sharing and I can tell from between your words that you are quite possibly a little lost their ... I can say that because I was too. If you will permit me later I would be happy to share some material that may help ... in the meantime get a copy of ... Happiness now by Robert Holden, Conversations with god by Neale Donald Walsch or anything by Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss or Chopra ... its all about understanding ourselves and the way our brains opporate ... which isn't too healthy.
One last couple of things before I leave you Jaymes ... in your search to define and control this relationship question by trying to find solutions to the mechanics of how two people interact ... you spoke of number ratios, birth dates etc and their significance to life issues ... you made the statement that this is a new fantastic science. I have to correct you my friend. Among a number of others ... it is actually one of the oldest sciences and know ledges around ... ancient civilisations built their societies based on this study of numerology and we are so backward it is not funny.
One example I will share ... the Mayans ... five thousand years ago ... they had 26 different calenders ... only one of them measured time ... the others measured numerological data from a consciousness perspective ... when someone was born they used that information to give them a blueprint for their lives, what their personal lessons were they had come here to master, what career and path they were destined for etc etc. Unlike ourselves who spend most of our lives trying to find this stuff out ... they new straight away and the whole society was geared to nourish the specific skills and experiences that individual required.
It is a very helpful tool that can have profound effects in ones life yes ... that is actually only one tiny aspect to a whole scope of things that can too. Numerology assists with specific cycles of ones life ... personality traits and paths ... however unless you have a reasonable grasp of the bigger picture and what our journeys are actually all about down here ... like many things it can work against you. I'm not going to be rude enough to share my personal understandings and beliefs with you but some time if you wish I will gladly share the wisdom that was em parted to me on my journey ... could be use full ... could be something for you to have a laugh at :)
Just to finish ... I wish you all the happiness, joy and love you wish for yourself Jaymes ... one last message sent with my love ... life ... relationships ... love ... are given to us for one purpose ... to experience my friend ... they are what they are and yes their is a higher meaning but that is not one of control ... its one of letting go ... releasing your expectations, fears ego and embracing each moment as it happens ... remember please ... the EMOTION love comes from the heart ... not that computer called the brain ... its meant to be felt ... not thought about :)
Regards
Marcus
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