My Diary part fifty eight LOVE,BREAD and BUTTER

Definition of LOVE

L stand for Listen to what she or he have to say.
O stand for Observe the communication and ( The Numbers Factor )*
V stand for Verify where is the gap or communication break-down.
E stand for Engage what we suppose to do to make she or he happy.

In The Term Of Listening
Listening is the first priority criteria in a relationship,
in order for us to understand the need of our love once we
must first know how to listen first before we express our
thought.Do you still remember when is the last time our
love one's asked us '' Is my dress look good tonight ? ".
Do we answer it with our thoughtful conscience or we do
not really listen to it attentively.Look at the great
leaders from all over the world,they are good listeners
to many mentor or advisor before they make any decision.
Look at the great teacher or lecturer in the schools and
universities,they are the student's good listeners too.
When it come to a relationship's issue or '' Love '',
it is time now we want to reveal it to you.
We mentioned '' Thought '' that it is so powerful that
we do not actually realize how powerful '' Thought '' can be.
It is the '' Thought '' that activate our mind to order
our '' Action '',eventually '' Action '' with several times
became '' Habit ''.And it is the '' Habit '' that build our
characters over the years.When it is the time we really put
our ears to listen attentively to certain issue that only
interest us,the problems now a lot couples facing is don't
really look at what is their needs before they commit them self
in a relationship.And they not really putting a listening ears
or en ought attentions to certain small issue which eventually
become bigger problems in the future.Some of those who pretend
to listen will have problems too because they only want to listen
to those issue or things which interest them.( Selective Listening )
We live in a make believe world,once we are married,we are married
to their family members too.We have to learn how to go about it and
live it with peace and happiness.That is the reason why you are still reading
this at this moment,it is either you are facing a relationship
problems or you still searching a way out for a great relationship.
To get true love in life is to have a strong fundamental base in a
relationship first,it is a process everyone will go through it in life.
Here i are having a few solutions for your relationship problems that
i have the good intention to help you,so join me and you will be amazed
how simple life can be if you want it to be.And guess what,it
is still not end of the ''L ove'' yet.

In The Term Of Observe

Ever since Human learned to rip fruits,leaves or hunting in the jungle for survival,
they all have to go through certain level of experiences and training before they can
hunt on them self or being discerning enough to determine which food they rip is not
poisonous.Unfortunately some of them died because of taken the wrong food instead of
the right one.And so on,the others tried hard to challenge the nature and continue
to venture into the new world.Until today,the new world have changed us a lot,
in personality and characteristic.In the way we look at life,the way we judge people,
and many others different behavior research never before being revealed.
This discovery is the first of its kind in this new world,by just analyse from a person
birth date,one can discover an individuals personality traits,capabilities,unique
characters,interaction with other's human being,most suitable career or business,
compatibility and many more.It is a new way of decoding human behavior.It is a
survivor skills i am going to reveal to you.In order to take charge in our life,wheat her
is for yourself or for your love one's.We all want a good life,i will help you to tap
into an individuals innate capacity for greater job performance and job satisfaction.
And also your success in life,wheat her it is love,relationship or career.In the history,
politics and relationship,do we ''OBSERVE'' en ought before make any decision.This second
part of research covers ''Human Behavioral Science''.

In The Term Of Verify

It has been long these words mingle around my conscience since
i encounter my first failure in a relationship many years ago.Fear,
sorrow,grief,tears and obstacles in this bumpy and rocky relationship
made me look at relationship differently and want to make things better.
Definitely is something you are very curious about and you want to know
what is it for you to learn and discover what you can do and what to avoid
to toil a relationship,wheat her it is a wife and husband or boyfriend and
girlfriend things.We all are here to find out the answer and i have decided
to share whatever resources and research i have done to help those who is still
wondering what to do to get someone who is able to share their feelings openly
and grow wrinkles together until the day theirs kid remember they had a
loving parents,passionate about each other's life.And being number one person
live deep inside their heart.''Verify''vs''Conscience''.

In The Term Of Engage

When we all know what is the ''Evaluation'' is about,
is time now we come to know ''Engage'' is also very important.
In the sense that many people would have thought only ''Evaluation''
can decide or determine a relationship wheat her it works or not.
Everyone wants a engaging relationship and a happy life,
who wants to toil their relationship for no reasons.

Briefly,i have shared the definition of ''LOVE'',now please join me on this
special project of life.Give me your opinion or axiom that hidden deep in
your conscience.

Following are the important discussion with you:

Analyzing the situation and communication.
The 70/30 50/50 90/10 factor. ( The Numbers Factor )*
What is true friendship.
What is true Love
How to overcome fear and negative self-talk.
Develop an optimistic attitude toward relationship.
It is better to have LOVED and LOST then never to have LOVE at all.
Know how of how to be selective and not making wrong decision.
Excuses to get to know each other,tel no,sms,email and other.
Eye contact,body language and other signs that you are not aware of.
Know the behavior on smart dating,online dating and any gathering.
What are the do and don't on the first date.
Being sensitive to issue that matters.
How to do self-assessment after first date.
What to do when there is no contact after the first dating.
The deadly mistake is procrastination
''Evaluation''
What is timing and golden opportunities.
How to make a breakfast that made her remember the beautiful sunrise.
How to make her remember how you really enjoy watching sunset together.
How warm are your letters to her in a cold night.
Is your listening good enough or did you put all ears to her problems.
Tackle the deadly mistake from writing it in '' Daily diary '' , '' Monthly diary''.
Exchange diary and candle light dinner.
How to be creative when her birthday is coming.
Remember and remind each other the first dating and revising diary content.
The power of a small note,trust the note rather than electronic device.
When to put in deeper meanings in a relationship when time is right.
It is time to show to treasure the relationship to a certain level.
The Love and memory Box.
The secret of rose garden.
The age gap and the impossible.
Not meant to be together and how to over come it.
The art of losing and how to win back her heart.
Make a difference and compose a song even you are not good at it.
How the other family members treat you.
Father and mother greatest creation is YOU.
The day both of you walk through the red carpet.
Sustain and move on.
The day we die.
Remembered and respected by all.

It has been long these words mingle around my conscience since
i encounter my first failure in a relationship many years ago.Fear,
sorrow,grief,tears and obstacles in this bumpy and rocky relationship
made me look at relationship differently,so the tag line on this subject
is named what is Love,Bread and Butter as i told you before.Definitely is
something you are very curious about and you want to know what is it for
you to learn and discover what you can do and what to avoid to toil a relationship,
wheat her it is a wife and husband or boyfriend and girlfriend things.We all are here
to find out the answer and i have decided to share whatever resources and research
i have done to help those who is still wondering what to do to get someone who is able
to share their feelings openly and grow wrinkles together until the day theirs kid
remember they had a loving parents,passionate about each other's life.And being number
one person live deep inside their heart.

More information about Dwriter can email to jaymeslong@gmail.com or
send sms to Singapore mobile number @ +65 82852883 or Malaysia mobile number
@ +6012-2670888 for co-writing purpose.

Please understand that my research within the group is not allow to
mention the person's name and contacts.

My Diary part fifty seven about a subject i am so passionate about it.

Jaymes here dedicate to all who is serious about searching true meaning of LOVE and RELATIONSHIP to learn together from one of my most valuable response.Kindly reply any comments that you feel strongly about LOVE and RELATIONSHIP.His insight of LOVE and RELATIONSHIP really gave me a new path of searching further.Sense of freedom in his writing that i really felt it from my heart and i started to use more of my right brain to create more and digest the learning of FEAR and CONTROL.I am so glad that i have him as a true teacher in LOVE.This is subject that probably research till i died.The subject that i always feel strongly about.The subject that the whole world desperately in need of it.I want to increase my much needed knowledge about this subject and share this to those who wants to know the true meaning of this subject.The LOVE,this unique contribution is always my vision and mission in my mind's map.I hope i will continue to receive more comments and co-writing in the future to fulfill my E-Book dreams.

HI JAYMES I HAD TO SHARE YOUR THESIS WITH A FRIEND AS I FEEL THAT YOU NEED ENLIGHTENMENT WHERE LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE CONCERNED...THIS IS FROM A DEAR FRIEND OF MINE WHO BRINGS MUCH JOY AND LAUGHTER TO MY LIFE, AND SO MUCH CAN BE LEARNT FROM WHAT HE HAS TO SO AS HE SENDS IT WITH MUCH LOVE...XOX RUTH

Jaymes thankyou for making available your heartfelt sharing on what you have learnt. You have done a wonderful job at bringing sound advice and some important techniques into your views about relationships ... I applaud your courage for sharing as I know myself from experience how hard it can be to open yourself up to the opinions of others ... for what they are worth here are mine ... they are sent with love, understanding and respect.
First up ... what you have written is some mature thoughts on relationships ... how to manage them ... how to assist in there growth ... and some good mindsets to have in place in working through obstacles. However Jaymes ... that has in my view nothing to do with the subject matter you attached them too ... love.
A relationship is a vehicle two people share and invest in to allow themselves the opportunity to express who they are, share their gifts, their hopes,dreams and goals, their commitment to each other. For want of a better word ... it is a tool. Your sharing was very analytical and looking at the mechanics of what is required for a relationship to be successful ... is probably right on the money. The second most important aspect (the first I shall discuss in a moment) is communication ... and yes it is crucial ... to communicate properly the most important sense we can use is our ears ... like you quite rightly said ... people generally talk when in reality what is needed is for them to listen ... but people by nature complicate relationships in many more ways than that.
The biggest problem in ourselves and as a result our relationships is one small little word ... ego. Ego is the controlling aspect within us ... a defense mechanism that is usually seen as proactive in nature as it only responds ... stimulus is applied and off it goes ... its the most damaging human aspect and pervades our psychic, our relationships and eventually our society. The only way a relationship is ever successful is when both parties learn to put aside this little demon. You can have all the strategies in the world and they will all fail at the hands of this aspect of us.
You spoke of actions creating habits which in turn create our character ... habits are a learned response nothing more ... I put it to you that you can simplify your equation and focus purely by looking at what drives actions and habits ... ego. When looking at it you'll discover that ego is a fear based emotion ... sadly that is what our world is based on. Ego thinks in terms of I ... the self in all its connotations ... a relationship by definition is almost the death of personal ego because we enter a collective where the I is replaced with us ... or if your want to be truly enlightened ... should be replaced with ... U.
As much as your sharing tried to convey mature concepts and strategies which it did ... it also conveyed unfortunately ... ego in its purist form. By analysing to the extent that you are what you are in fact striving to do is control ... you might prefer the term manage ... but look deeper and you'll soon come to the realization its about control ... control of self, guidelines, strategies, theories etc etc ... that is logical left brained analytical thinking at its most defined ... well Jaymes my friend ... that very well might be handy at managing what appears to be the project you look at as being a relationship ... but that ain't got nothing ... I say nothing ... to do with love.
You want to easily know what love is ? ... do not ask a man, most have it dead wrong ... ask a woman Jaymes.
Love is EMOTION ... one little aspect that was completely absent in your pure left brained thesis I might add ... hugs.
Love is joy
Love is giving
Love is happiness
Love is inspiration
Love is light
Love is exhilaration
Love is passion
Love is service
Love is freedom
Love is creation
Love is butterflies flapping around in your stomach ... that feeling of vulnerability while at the same time an endearing arm of security ... love is a completeness within you that overcomes all fear, all ego, all needs, all wants ... love is our most gran dist self behind all the selfish masks and tricks we use to hide and protect ourselves ... love is all their really is.
There are in fact only two emotions in this world ... well actually the universe ... love and fear. Every other emotion is born from one of these aspects ... the positive and the negative ... the ying and the yang ... the black and the white ... the light and the dark.
Now when it comes to loving someone here's one crucial little piece of information that I believe you know but possibly don't wish to look at too much because its too close to home for all of us and a major basis on why our world and our relationships are so destructive by nature ... NO ONE CAN LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU DO YOURSELF.
Meditate and analyse just that for a week and you will not only understand relationships completely ... you may finally start of the road to finding a healthy one. The fact is people don't get into relationships for the right reasons ... they enter them ... they even fall in love ... to have someone love them more than they do themselves ... mostly by and large people hate themselves ... that is a recipe for disaster and does not work. Yes theres a heap more too it ... but its also just that simple.
Loving someone else is easy ... or at least thinking you love someone else is easy ... loving yourself is not so because we are our own worst critic ... our own worst enemy. However how can anyone be successful in building a relationship unless each person loves themselves completely first ? ... you asked similar questions in your sharing and I can tell from between your words that you are quite possibly a little lost their ... I can say that because I was too. If you will permit me later I would be happy to share some material that may help ... in the meantime get a copy of ... Happiness now by Robert Holden, Conversations with god by Neale Donald Walsch or anything by Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss or Chopra ... its all about understanding ourselves and the way our brains opporate ... which isn't too healthy.
One last couple of things before I leave you Jaymes ... in your search to define and control this relationship question by trying to find solutions to the mechanics of how two people interact ... you spoke of number ratios, birth dates etc and their significance to life issues ... you made the statement that this is a new fantastic science. I have to correct you my friend. Among a number of others ... it is actually one of the oldest sciences and know ledges around ... ancient civilisations built their societies based on this study of numerology and we are so backward it is not funny.
One example I will share ... the Mayans ... five thousand years ago ... they had 26 different calenders ... only one of them measured time ... the others measured numerological data from a consciousness perspective ... when someone was born they used that information to give them a blueprint for their lives, what their personal lessons were they had come here to master, what career and path they were destined for etc etc. Unlike ourselves who spend most of our lives trying to find this stuff out ... they new straight away and the whole society was geared to nourish the specific skills and experiences that individual required.
It is a very helpful tool that can have profound effects in ones life yes ... that is actually only one tiny aspect to a whole scope of things that can too. Numerology assists with specific cycles of ones life ... personality traits and paths ... however unless you have a reasonable grasp of the bigger picture and what our journeys are actually all about down here ... like many things it can work against you. I'm not going to be rude enough to share my personal understandings and beliefs with you but some time if you wish I will gladly share the wisdom that was em parted to me on my journey ... could be use full ... could be something for you to have a laugh at :)
Just to finish ... I wish you all the happiness, joy and love you wish for yourself Jaymes ... one last message sent with my love ... life ... relationships ... love ... are given to us for one purpose ... to experience my friend ... they are what they are and yes their is a higher meaning but that is not one of control ... its one of letting go ... releasing your expectations, fears ego and embracing each moment as it happens ... remember please ... the EMOTION love comes from the heart ... not that computer called the brain ... its meant to be felt ... not thought about :)
Regards
Marcus

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My Diary part fifty six Thankful to those who celebrated Father's day together

Papa,love you very much.You are my inspiration and my role model as a good husband and father.Wish you a great Father's day and i missed you from home.Looking forward to see you again this coming weekend.Few things i did to relief myself is chatting with msn network,learn new language like Russia,Filipino and Indie.Listen to the wave and natural sound clip.Working on some of my off line writing and research.Watch movies PS I LOVE YOU,MUSIC and Lyrics great inspiration for me.Accept invitation to local friends gathering.Started to give my free advice to local people about Human Behavioral Science.Some of them buy me free lunch for that.At least i feel a little self worth about myself.Ah Liang came to visit me.I am so happy.He had few projects here,and i will give him some helping hands when he need me.I shared with him our famous Otak-Otak from JB.He likes it very much.

My Diary part fifty five Send Email to My Brother

Dear Brother,Hope that every one in the family can adapt to mother's new healing journey.I am now just had my dinner and try to go to bed early tonight.Pass few night is warm and difficult to fall asleep as i chat on line with ex-student in KL and others.Aunty Stephanie came today,she said she plan to go China with uncle,Kevin and Aunty Ivy.About sister Mala issue please remember to discuss with Candice as soon as possible to avoid miss understanding.That's all,brother.Take care!!

Your Brother,
Seh Hui

My Diary part fifty four What happen to China

Mother day's just over.And something happen to our mother earth.Our mother earth is very fragile and sophisticated.Mother earth's story is a human story on earth,what we are now riping from her sooner we all are going to pay back.Many scientist are now try to explain to human why we have to look for alternative to go out of the earth to explore more out there.We as human,a unique combination of mind,soul and body is the dreamer of the dreams.But don't we think what is the purpose to live,the ultimate purpose for here is that to live well.Why we create so much confusion to human.Come to think of it,every one you love,the joy of being together with your love ones,your father,your mother,your grand-parents,your husband,your wife and your FUTURE.Is our children,what we are now riping from our mother earth is very inhuman and not filial towards our mother earth.Thousand of scientist are trying every possibility and creative solution to overcome.Time is really running out here on mother earth.Every couples,every parents want to create better future for the kids but what look now how mother earth react to us.The cyclone and earth quake that just happen to Myanmar and China.What is the meaning of mother day that still so many helpless children now are screaming for their mother in China who suffered from earth quake.They have lost their parents,lost every thing.Why PROCRASTINATE!!Even every corrupt politician,every distinct species,bad people or some one who is in power know this very well.Let others initial before us.This kind of attitude and selfishness.Think of the river of blood is all flowing with these people's DNA,then we can now imagine what kind of future is going to happen to our next few generation to live on mother earth.Our self importance will kill us all in the future for sure.We have to work hand in hand to stop global warming.We have this fear inside us,our insecurity,our selfishness is killing us.
The earth is the only world we have known to harbour lives,but many of us on earth is still taking it for granted.The life on earth is a ultimate experience of a very special journey.Why this is happening to us,why?
Why we create border line to border line in a smaller world ? Wall of Berlin,wall from neighbor to neighbor ? Why we have debate ? Because every one has different ways of looking at things and life.Why not we give more LOVE to the world.Love can change the world if we now think that we are going to died next couple of minutes.What will you do ? Who will you call ? What last wishes and hope for your love ones ? Imagine how wonderful the world will be if every one treat each other as though is the last minute together.Ted Chung from USA created "a thousand words" by the words share the words.I am touched and feel sorry what had happen to Myanmar and china.I wish more love for the world and overcome sorrow and give hope those who is suffering now.The world never seem to change a lot accept artificial intelligent Robot are now slowly replacing human.I will share more in future about how human behavior science and psychology.

My Diary part fifty three Thankful to those who celebrated Mother's day together

Ma !! I lOVE YOU!!

My Diary part fifty two Thankful to those who celebrated Mother's day together

Sister Mala is our main care giver who have lots of patience and compassion to take care of our mother.Here i wish all mothers in the world health and happiness.And we pray for all suffered mother in Myanmar now.God bless those who cares.